Half-way Point

I am at a half-way point right now. Six months ago my hubby packed his A bag, his B bag, his rucksack and a huge rolling bag and left. Well, actually, I dropped him off at his Army unit. And now we are half-way through his year-long deployment. They say the first half is the toughest and things will start moving faster from now on. I am not so sure. But I do hope so 'cause honestly, I'm kind of hitting the wall. 

Don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining. Things have been much easier than I imagined they'd be. Six months ago I was freaking out about issues like

1) how am I going to wake up at 6am every morning for a whole year? (I am not a morning person plus I work 'til 12am-1am every night)

2) what if we get snowed in this winter (I can't drive in the snow or ice)

3) what if M has to go to an emergency room in the middle of the night? What if I have to go to an emergency room in the middle of the night? (who's going to stay with M since we have no relatives in the area; I was a bit freaked out about medical stuff 'cause I just had a surgery a few days before Chris's deployment)

4) what if the car breaks down big time (it's a 2002 KIA with almost 160K on it)

5) what if I get really sick, like with a stomach virus, and can't take care of M for a few days? (this did happen about a year ago when both Chris and I caught a stomach bug from M and got sick at the same time)

6) what if... you name it, I was worried about it.

Well, none of these problems proved to be all that scary

1) every evening I set up a snack and water for M so he has something to eat when he wakes up. He then (mostly) quietly plays with his toys for an hour or so and I get some extra sleep. Oh, and I moved his bedtime to 8pm instead of 7pm, so he wakes up a bit later now too.

2) the winter was very mild, no snow at all

3) hasn't happened yet and I'm keeping my fingers crossed. Plus if something doesn't feel quite right, I immediately make an appointment with a doctor. Call me paranoid, but I figure, better be safe than sorry.

4) I took the car to the mechanic for some repairs, none too serious. The guy assured me that the car is in good shape. I'm keeping my fingers crossed on this one as well.

5) Haven't gotten sick so far (tfu-tfu-tfu) and keeping fingers crossed, of course. Plus I have an emergency supply of healthy-ish snacks for M to feed himself for a day or so if I'm so sick I can't fix something for him.

Yet other issues, rather unexpected ones, popped up and I have to deal with them every single day. This is all mundane, domestic stuff, nothing extraordinary. Yet, as the Russian saying goes капля камень точит (little strokes fell great oaks). 

Some of it comes from my choice of homeschooling M and the fact that he still has a major separation anxiety. He absolutely does not stay with anyone other than me for any length of time. Another source of issues is me constantly trying to do more than just keeping things together. I keep re-arranging furniture, re-organizing toy storage, etc. OCD, maybe? My latest project is clearing our backyard of all the weeds (our backyard is overgrown with English ivy, poison ivy, and Virginia creeper, making for an interesting challenge). 

I've had lots of offers of help (mostly babysitting) from friends and I am so grateful!. But unfortunately I can't take you up on these offers (see above). Instead, let's just have lots of playdates! So here's how you can help me get through my mid-way slump:

1. Tell me I'm doing a great job :)

2. Chat with M for a few minutes when you stop by. It makes him very happy to have someone other than me to talk to about garbage trucks, Star Wars, and robots.

3. Don't ask me to babysit your kids, please-please (I have a hard time saying "no", but honestly, I'm a bit overwhelmed at the moment). If you do ask, please-please, let's keep it to like an hour or so. 

4. Come over for tea, playdates, or just to say "hello". Or come stay at our place for a few days if you are not local. I'm always happy to have guests.

5. If you can't stop by, give me a buzz once in a while or e-mail me. Send me your latest pictures too!

6. If you can, take pix of me and M doing stuff together and don't forget to e-mail them to me (as much time as I spend with M this year, 24/7 really, I have like almost no pictures of the two of us).

We'll continue doing ok or even better than ok as we've been doing so far. We only have a few months left. Not even 6 months. How come? Well, you see, we came up with this awesome counting system - we don't count the current month (so on May 1st we don't count the entire May); we don't count the last month; and we don't count the month when Chris is supposed to come down here for a couple of weeks for R&R. So really, we only have 3 months left! Hooray!!!

Books, Books, Books

This week we have been reading these books:

Continuing with M's interest in everything garbage-related, we got just about every garbage truck book from the library. This particular book is very basic. It just relays the basic facts of what a garbage truck does. But the pictures are great, so M just flips through it on his own. We are re-reading Smash! Mash! Crash! There goes the trash! and a few other garbage books I already mentioned.

As for books not related (or at least not totally related) to garbage, we've found the absolutely wonderful Wendel's Workshop by Chris Riddell. M loved-loved-loved the book. The story is so simple, but humorous. The illustrations are wonderful. It's about an inventor mouse, a bunch of junkbots, a messy room and yes, about trash too. After re-reading this book several times, M took it into his "workshop" (our family room) and started inventing and drawing blueprints.

Funny story about this book. When I read it the first time, we got to the point where it talks about how sometimes Wendel was so busy inventing, that he forgot to go to bed at night. Right away M asked me "Does Wendel have a mommy? Isn't he a baby mouse?" I said, sure, he had a mom. "So how come he gets to stay up late and work at night?" asked M. Hmm...

I try, whenever possible, to add books about things other than robots, space, and garbage trucks to our reading "diet". Sometimes M flatly refuses to even look through them. Other times, as with this book, he seems interested. I only read it to him once, but it was a very nice experience. The irony of this book was that the only experiences that were foreign to M had to do with the pages where Polina (the Russian girl from the book) went to school. The rest of it - having blini or porridge for breakfast, playing ladushki game, drinking tea around a samovar, etc was all too familiar. The coolest part of reading this book was when I pointed out to a photo of the children writing Russian words on a blackboard and M could read the word!

Grandpa is going to Russia for a month or so and M's been talking about wanting to go to Russia too. So this book was a very timely read for us. And then M asked me to find some YouTube videos of Russian garbage trucks :)

I couldn't believe my luck when I found this book at the library sale a few weeks ago. It was only $0.50 and I snagged it right away. The poems in this book are so funny and the illustrations are even funnier. We've been reading it at bed time for the last few days. M's favorite poems from this book are Веселая квампания and Мёдопровод.

Our other Russian-language book this week has been fairy tales by Korney Chukovsky. I love them and remember many by heart. I started reading them to M when he wasn't even a year old. But then we took a long break from these charming stories, except the one about Barmaley which he'd ask me to read to him now and then. But earlier in the week we re-read the entire book and for the first time M seemed to be really interested in all, even in Dr Aibolit. Maybe we'll return to them after a few more days with the Merry Company.

Trip to the Landfill

Today was the day! We finally took a tour of the county landfill. And it was one of the most interesting tours we've been on. Needless to say, M was so excited!

The free tour was organized by South Wake Solid Waste Management. After we got to the landfill, we were given a brief, but very informative presentation describing all the areas of the landfill (with areal photographs) and the layers it was composed of.

Then we all got into a big van and taken to the spot just a few yards away from the landfill's cell that is now being filled with garbage. Since it was Saturday, things were pretty slow. We saw only three or four garbage trucks pulling into the area and unloading. Consequently, there was only one compactor working. But that was just fine since even a not so busy landfill was a very happening place. But not very smelly at all.

Actually, that was one of the most surprising things of all. Even standing just across a road from all that trash, it didn't smell all that bad. Sure, there was an occasional whiff, but not much more than the smell from a dumpster behind a typical restaurant.

Another surprise was how clean the place was. I mean, sure, there was a whole lot of garbage in the cell, but driving all around the landfill we saw maybe just a couple of small pieces (plastic bags, actually), laying around, and there was a crew member walking towards them to pick them up and return to the proper area.

We were taken to all the interesting areas of the landfill, including the methane flare and the leachate tank. We also got to go to the very top of the old, sealed field. From 400 ft up, we had a nice 360 view of the entire facility as well as of the Shearon Harris nuclear power plant in the distance (what, you haven't gotten one in your neighborhood?!) It was almost a picnic-perfect spot, I'm telling you.

And then the tour was over and we returned back to the old transfer station shed. The last cool thing we got to see from the van was an area in which oyster shells are collected before being shipped to the coast. And then we got back to our car and headed home, but only after dropping off some old batteries at the household hazardous waste drop-off area.

If you live in Wake County, you can register for the next available tour (on Sept 10) - it's free and very interesting. You'll definitely think twice before throwing things away.

Thursdays at Our House

I've come to love Thursdays lately. Why? Mostly because we spend the entire day at home. And it feels nice. Actually, let me correct myself here. We do spend a whole lot of time in the house on Thursdays, but we spend even more time out in the yard.

That's because Thursday is a garbage pick-up day in our neighborhood. So first thing in the morning, right after breakfast and home school we rush into the front yard. From that moment we have about 4 hours to spend outside. Yes, that's a lot of time, so we try to make the most of it. 

We do a whole lot of weeding, picking up pine cones and sweet gumballs and battling with crabgrass. We've also been busy clearing the wooded part of our yard overgrown with ivy. My secret plan is to hang a hammock and hang some solar lanterns too. When it's done, I will be able to supervise M waiting for garbage trucks from the comfort of my hammock.

Of course, weeding doesn't take up 4 hours (not if you do it every single week). So for the last hour or so we end up just waiting... M busies himself with his toy garbage trucks; the cat lazies in the sun; and I try to read a book while simultaneously answering M's "is the truck going to be here soon?" questions.

Do you believe me when I say that the garbage truck drivers know M, wave at him, get out of the truck to talk to him and, whenever possible, get the crusher blade working  to smash-mash-crash all that trash? You better believe me.

The last truck usually comes by around 2-2:30pm. That's when we head back inside for a quick lunch. And then our fantastic speech therapist, Natalia, comes over. I can't believe my luck finally finding a speech therapist that a) my son adores, b) I like, c) is very effective, d) believes in holistic approach and e) is a native Russian speaker. 

Then later in the evening we now join a group of other Russian moms and children for a Russian story and tea time. And that's our Thursdays. Somehow we still end up staying busy. But at least it's a no-driving-around busy which I do like for a change.

This Week We Are Reading

Here are some more books we've been reading this week.

Jack the Builder by Stuart J Murphy. The story is really simple - a boy builds something with blocks. First, with two, then with three, five, etc. The structures look simple, but the boy's imagination transforms them into something amazing. M already builds a lot of very imaginative structures with the blocks, so this story was very easy to relate to. The math was too simple, so we came up with our own challenges. The one M loved the most was to divide all the blocks we had evenly between us, then race to build structures using all available blocks.

When it was my turn to invent a game, I came up with an idea of rolling dice to determine how many blocks to take from a pile. Then build something with just those blocks and little odds and ends (pipe cleaners, straws, nuts and bolts, shells) that we have lots and lots of.

Diary of a Wombat by Jackie French. We both loved this cute story! It's absolutely wonderful in its simplicity. Wombats don't lead very excited or varied lives. Whenever they don't sleep or scratch, they eat grass and roots. The little wombat in the book is no exception... until he gets new neighbors.

As simple as the story is, it's a great book to develop critical thinking skills. After reading this story a few times, I asked M to imagine what would this story sound like if told by wombat's new neighbors, the humans. Back in January we had this post on the Moebius Noodles Facebook page:

"Point of view reversals through stories are important for developing the algebraic look at math and life, say to use the fact that addition and subtraction are inverses to calculate smarter."

Another great benefit of reading this book was that M's consumption of carrots increased dramatically over the next couple of days.

We also read, or rather played with Press Here by Herve Tullet. I wrote a review and some ideas for math play based on this book over at the Moebius Noodles blog.

We've been re-reading this Russian book for the upteenth time now. M still laughs and enjoys it as much as he did the first time we read it, if not more. Now he even quotes lines from it. I am getting pretty good at making myself sound like all the different characters in the story. Maybe there's bright future for me in audio books recording?